Is happiness just an illusion? So much of our time is spent searching. Searching for contentment, for happiness. Through our various escapes, our countless distractions.
Is happiness a place, or is a person? Is happiness a feeling, or is it a state of mind? Is happiness different for everyone, or is it one in the same?
Thursday, September 25, 2008
Wednesday, September 24, 2008
Lucky in Love?
Those "lucky" enough to be in love have it easy. They have someone to hold them close at night. Someone to stand by them during the toughest times. Someone to help them up when they fall. Someone to wipe their tears. Someone to be not only their soulmate, but also their confidant, their kindred spirit, their best friend.
But what about the hard stuff? The various baggage each partner brings to the table. The differences in opinions, in experiences, in morals and standards, in personality and character traits. What about all of that? And just when do differences become less of a mysteriously attractive trait and more of an obstacle, hindering a relationship's growth? And when they do become less attractive and more of a hindrance, what is to be done?
When is pointing these differences out nagging and harping, and when is it simply communicating? When should things be let go and when should they be acknowledged?
A wise divorcee once told me that any man who would move mountains for his woman is worth holding onto; someone whom she should not let go. Another wise soul said that if you love someone, you should let them go. If they love you back, it was said they would return in time.
When should intuition be followed and when should it be ignored, allowing the cliches to dictate our destinies?
Love is important, but is it enough? Relationships take hard work, selflessness. But even these things are sometimes not enough.
How much do we sacrifice for our partners before losing ourselves? When does love stop being love and start being obsession? When does sacrifice stop being sacrifice and start being submission? When does selflessness stop being selflessness and start being codependence?
Is love a tragedy or a comedy?
And why is it so much easier to love only one's self?
But what about the hard stuff? The various baggage each partner brings to the table. The differences in opinions, in experiences, in morals and standards, in personality and character traits. What about all of that? And just when do differences become less of a mysteriously attractive trait and more of an obstacle, hindering a relationship's growth? And when they do become less attractive and more of a hindrance, what is to be done?
When is pointing these differences out nagging and harping, and when is it simply communicating? When should things be let go and when should they be acknowledged?
A wise divorcee once told me that any man who would move mountains for his woman is worth holding onto; someone whom she should not let go. Another wise soul said that if you love someone, you should let them go. If they love you back, it was said they would return in time.
When should intuition be followed and when should it be ignored, allowing the cliches to dictate our destinies?
Love is important, but is it enough? Relationships take hard work, selflessness. But even these things are sometimes not enough.
How much do we sacrifice for our partners before losing ourselves? When does love stop being love and start being obsession? When does sacrifice stop being sacrifice and start being submission? When does selflessness stop being selflessness and start being codependence?
Is love a tragedy or a comedy?
And why is it so much easier to love only one's self?
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